Your Neighborhood Professional Deviant

Today I found myself discussing romance twice. The first time, a coworker and I debated the current health status of romance. She says that it's dead. I say it's usually just comatose. Later on in the day, someone else gave Me the assignment to list some things that I think are romantic. So here we are. Gifting was an obvious topic. Don't get Me wrong, I like gifts. Giving and receiving. But there has to be some heart behind it. You can give Me flowers. Ok. You can give me flowers and have a deep love to go with it. Maybe give them on the anniversary of the day we met. Or in remembrance of the first time I said I loved you. Kudos on that idea! You could pick out the specific types of flowers that I love most. This shows that not only do the little details matter, but that you're willing to put effort into romantical stuff. I personally like to send cards. Sure, the romantical ones on birthdays and holidays... but also the Just Cause ones. But it's not really about t...

Time for the first post of Q & A! I've got 3 queries lined up and ready to go! Q1)How do you approach the subject of asking your significant other if you can explore different things on your own, ie SM, BDSM ect. Yes, being physical would be involved. The reason for wanting to go solo, is there are things that cant be done to the one you love, there needs to be no "attraction" or "feelings" just letting the primal urge take over. Not breaking up so you can go sleep around, and being safe when ever it is done, just letting the wild side come out and relieve the urge to go behind the back to get what you need. If you aren't already in an open relationship, this can be hard to do. I'd be honest about it, but I'd ease into the sexual "physical" aspect of it after you gauge their reaction to the BDSM stuff. You know your partner best. If you think, before even approaching them about any of this, that they aren't the type to be ok with an...