Your Neighborhood Professional Deviant

Time for the first post of Q & A! I've got 3 queries lined up and ready to go! Q1)How do you approach the subject of asking your significant other if you can explore different things on your own, ie SM, BDSM ect. Yes, being physical would be involved. The reason for wanting to go solo, is there are things that cant be done to the one you love, there needs to be no "attraction" or "feelings" just letting the primal urge take over. Not breaking up so you can go sleep around, and being safe when ever it is done, just letting the wild side come out and relieve the urge to go behind the back to get what you need. If you aren't already in an open relationship, this can be hard to do. I'd be honest about it, but I'd ease into the sexual "physical" aspect of it after you gauge their reaction to the BDSM stuff. You know your partner best. If you think, before even approaching them about any of this, that they aren't the type to be ok with an...

14 years ago, almost 15, I legally wandered into the world of BDSM. I say legally because I was dabbling for fun as a teen, before I was legally old enough to do so in public or for a living. I started My path as a lifestyle and professional Domme. I eventually ended up a switch in the bedroom. I like to think that I learned a lot over the years. Learned from hands on, from observing. Learned about the How To parts of it all, and the Why parts. Granted, there is a lot of it that I cant fathom as far as the Why goes but... very little really makes Me mad. OK so here's what we know: Gay man and lesbian woman enter a BDSM relationship together. Not very common but it happens. He's the Dom, she's the submissive. Sure, nonsexual BDSM relationships happen. Ok. Fine. Cool. They're claiming an Open Relationship. Which makes sense since... yanno... they don't fuck each other. Sure. Ok. Right on. They're getting married. Faux weddings so that folks can get benefits and ot...