Sunday, October 31, 2010

What is this I dont even....

14 years ago, almost 15, I legally wandered into the world of BDSM. I say legally because I was dabbling for fun as a teen, before I was legally old enough to do so in public or for a living. I started My path as a lifestyle and professional Domme. I eventually ended up a switch in the bedroom. I like to think that I learned a lot over the years. Learned from hands on, from observing. Learned about the How To parts of it all, and the Why parts. Granted, there is a lot of it that I cant fathom as far as the Why goes but... very little really makes Me mad.

OK so here's what we know:

Gay man and lesbian woman enter a BDSM relationship together. Not very common but it happens. He's the Dom, she's the submissive. Sure, nonsexual BDSM relationships happen. Ok. Fine. Cool.

They're claiming an Open Relationship. Which makes sense since... yanno... they don't fuck each other. Sure. Ok. Right on.

They're getting married. Faux weddings so that folks can get benefits and other such legalities happens all of the time. I'm neutral about the shady aspect of it, but oh well. Do what ye will. Have fun. Dressing up and parties and such are fun.

Now here's where My panties get bunched.

He is pulling the One Way Street card. He can sleep with anyone he wants, but she cant.

Yes, yes. He's the Dom. Sure. I get that. But he won't ever be fucking her since HE'S GAY, but he still won't let her have a relationship with a woman. He's stamping the Property stamp on her and being really rather... stingy about it.

I'm sure that plenty of people think that this is normal. Fine. I don't. I think it's a bit over the top. If you want to have a play partner, fine. If you want to skirt the law and have a fake wedding, cool. But if you have NO plans whatsoever of being romantically or sexually involved with someone, don't nuke their options for either kind of involvement elsewhere.

Jesus fuck. What a self centered douche bag.