Wednesday, December 02, 2015

I hate to say it but face the facts

Dear Feminism,


How're you doing today? Are you feeling ok? You were doing so well, but then you had a relapse. I'm worried about you!


Yes, I suppose that this is an intervention. No worries, I haven't called in your loved ones and a television crew. This is just you and I, chatting about your health.


We've known each other a long time. I admit, for a while there, I was worried about some of your decisions. Slut shaming, turning against certain women instead of supporting all of us. But you made amazing progress since then. You embraced all women. You went from "Smut is demeaning" to "these women are empowered and sex positive!" and I was so proud! You had finally figured it all out. I celebrated your accomplishment.


It seems that you've changed your mind, though. You've taken a step backwards, and this concerns me. Now you're back to slut shaming... you're even shaming pixelated game characters and inked comic book characters? Why? Every woman should be proud, able to wear whatever clothing (or lack thereof) they want, and should be sexually liberated. Remember? You were all about that. Now this? Selectivity isn't your best look, I'm just saying.


This setback that has me so worried? It's not just bad for you, it's bad for all women. It's unhealthy. I want you to be healthy. I want you to be your very best. I'm your friend, your supporter. All I've ever wanted is the very greatest of things for you. If I have to sit you down and point out things that you're doing wrong, I will. So I am. Because I care.


There are a lot of us who are worried about you. So many people who want to see you get better. So many people concerned about your well being. If you took a moment to see all of us, to listen to our advice... I promise you, things will turn around. Things can be amazing. We only want what's best for you. We only care about your success.


Another concern is your opinion of men these days. Remember when you were about equality? That was the way to do it! Everybody equal in everybody's eyes. Yay! But what's all this that you're about now? Hashtags like 'killallmen'? Trying to obliterate Father's Day? Instead of aiming for equal representation of women in various workplaces and groups, you're trying to nuke all of the men? And to see a man actually commit suicide because of the rabid exclusion that you've gotten so into? This doesn't make sense to me. It doesn't make sense to a lot of people who love you. To be honest, it scares us. It's such an unhealthy outlook on life, and ultimately it will be very bad for you. Not to mention that it's going against everything that you once stood for. Equality. Hypocrisy isn't a good look for you either. As your friend, I want you to always look your best!


Just know that, even though it might look like I'm against you, I'm not. I'm just trying to help you, to do what is best for you. We've been together too long for me to give up on you now.